beauty is what is seen and what is felt.
“All I see is where our days repeat. And our love goes on.” ~HelloGoodbye
“But my heart is beating and my pulses start Cathedrals in my heart. Every siren is a symphony and every tear’s a waterfall…” ~Coldplay
This chapter is important for many reasons. A letter from a parent to their child, it discusses the difference between good and evil, how to stand strong against evil, how to protect yourself, and how to pursue goodness in life. It’s a chapter many, (if not all) can relate to and learn from in some way.
Beautifully written and heartfelt it’s one of my favorite chapters in the Bible.
Proverbs Chapter 4: Get Wisdom at Any Cost
1 Listen, my sons, to a father’s instruction;
pay attention and gain understanding.
2 I give you sound learning,
so do not forsake my teaching.
3 For I too was a son to my father,
still tender, and cherished by my mother.
4 Then he taught me, and he said to me,
“Take hold of my words with all your heart;
keep my commands, and you will live.
5 Get wisdom, get understanding;
do not forget my words or turn away from them.
6 Do not forsake wisdom, and she will protect you;
love her, and she will watch over you.
7 The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom.
Though it cost all you have, get understanding.
8 Cherish her, and she will exalt you;
embrace her, and she will honor you.
9 She will give you a garland to grace your head
and present you with a glorious crown.”
10 Listen, my son, accept what I say,
and the years of your life will be many.
11 I instruct you in the way of wisdom
and lead you along straight paths.
12 When you walk, your steps will not be hampered;
when you run, you will not stumble.
13 Hold on to instruction, do not let it go;
guard it well, for it is your life.
14 Do not set foot on the path of the wicked
or walk in the way of evildoers.
15 Avoid it, do not travel on it;
turn from it and go on your way.
16 For they cannot rest until they do evil;
they are robbed of sleep till they make someone stumble.
17 They eat the bread of wickedness
and drink the wine of violence.
18 The path of the righteous is like the morning sun,
shining ever brighter till the full light of day.
19 But the way of the wicked is like deep darkness;
they do not know what makes them stumble.
20 My son, pay attention to what I say;
turn your ear to my words.
21 Do not let them out of your sight,
keep them within your heart;
22 for they are life to those who find them
and health to one’s whole body.
23 Above all else, guard your heart,
for everything you do flows from it.
24 Keep your mouth free of perversity;
keep corrupt talk far from your lips.
25 Let your eyes look straight ahead;
fix your gaze directly before you.
26 Give careful thought to the paths for your feet
and be steadfast in all your ways.
27 Do not turn to the right or the left;
keep your foot from evil.
(copied from BibleGateway.com)
As human beings we function on a strange level, we need to be in contact with others. Sometimes we pick individuals who are “like us,” and other times we pick individuals who are the complete opposite. We develop relationships with those in the same household, neighborhood, work places, schools, through other friends… the list goes on. Then, once we have developed relationships we put them into different categories, different “bubbles.” Time will allow us to keep many relationships, but there’s no denying that life can also separate us from others.
Sometimes, I catch myself wondering why we spend so much time getting to know people and why we use so much time and energy letting them get to know us, when one day they could pack up and leave. it’s a strange concept to me, and maybe it’s because I majored in Psychology, so I read into things.
But I do, I find it strange that we spend so much time trying to build relationships; we strengthen the weak points, reflect on our strengths, talk for hours, spend time showing that we care, we hug and kiss & cuddle, we cry and show real emotion, share monumental moments together, embrace the beauties in life as well as the hardships, we triumph and falter, we sacrifice, spend money, and many other things for friends, family, loved ones, partners, etc. But for what?
Is it not true that at some point we or they will, in some way, leave? We go our separate ways. have an argument that leads to silence. distance ourselves. find things just won’t work out, face the end of our time here on Earth, moving away; the “departing” possibilities are endless. It’s sad.
And it’s hard. Hard to watch those we have built relationships with, walk away. it’s even harder letting them go. Many of us may find ourselves in the position to remain strong and firm in our stance while the other turns to leave, we must find the strength to not lunge after them while screaming, “don’t go!”
We’re then left with memories, right? These fond memories that now cloud our mind…
It’s within these memories, however, that I then come to understand the importance of it all.
I used to sit and wonder, “What’s the point?” How many times have you heard the phrase, “you realize what you had once it’s gone…” THAT’S SO DEPRESSING, so stop thinking that! Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had those moments of “crap! they’re gone… I want them to come back!” but that’s when I have to remind myself that it’s not always about wanting things back, or desiring the things we no longer have. It IS about recognizing how fantastic things were while they were there, and moving on.
If we spend our time thinking about the past, what could have been, etc. We’ll miss out on all of the GREAT things in our present and our future! While thinking about our old friendships we’ll miss out on opportunities to make new ones. So instead of dwelling on the past, learn from it! Change your thinking from “I wonder what could have been,” to “Even though we’ve gone our separate ways, I’m so glad you were part of my life!”
The relationships we make are part of life. Part of ourselves, of building our character, personality. A learning experience for next time. It all comes down to learning about our strengths and weaknesses, about others, how we behave in social situations, how we react to conflict, and more. The relationships that are placed into our lives are just as important as the air we breathe! We need them to survive, even if all that’s left of some relationships are memories (good and bad), because they were still a part of our lives!
In my 25 years of life, there have been many people who have come and gone. It’s just something that happens. I find that I’m able to reflect upon my past relationships with great respect, because I have learned a lot about myself, and about who I want to surround myself with. I know that if someone didn’t make it into my future, there’s a reason for it; it was a chance happening that they came into my life, and another chance that they didn’t make it to my future. I know now that no matter what my past may hold, it’s how I move on and into my future that matters.
There will always be “what if” moments. I’m sure I’ll learn a lot more as time continues to press forward. I’ll make new friends, watch others leave, learn more about myself and others… but I’ll do it with a smile.
All this rambling comes with one important message, acknowledge the importance of those in your life now, before life get’s in the way. And if/when you or they leave, and you find that you miss them, that’s okay. Because missing them will remind you that they were real, just remember to think of the good, and not the bad.
So go out and live your life, you never know… the next stranger you run into could be your newest best friend!
Although there may be clouds, the sun will come out soon!
Instead of writing about how awesome God’s love for us is and about how he is always there for us, I’ll let His word do the speaking.
“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” – Isaiah 41:10
“But I will sing of your strength, in the morning I will sing of your love; for you are my fortress, my refuge in times of trouble.” – Psalm 59:16
“Do you not know? Have you not heard? The LORD is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding on one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” – Isaiah 40:28-31
“Look to the LORD and his strength; seek his face always.” – 1 Chronicles 16:11
Jason Mraz is amazing, and so is this song! It’s become my “feel good” song
“I wont give up… if the skies get rough. I’m giving you all my love, I’m still looking up.
I don’t wanna be someone who walks away so easily I’m here to stay and make the difference that I can make. Our differences do a lot to teach us how to use the tools and gifts we got, ya we’ve got a lot at stake. We had to learn how to bend without the world without the world caving in. I had to learn what I got, and what I’m not and who I am… No I Am Not Giving Up, We Are Alive, And We Are Worth It!”
I’ve seen this over and over again and it makes me smile Every Darn Time!
Chester See is a great artist, this song holds a greater meaning than the video may portray, but still made me smile 🙂 hope it does the same for you